Stop Telling Me What I Can't Have!

I wish people would stop telling women what they can and can't have... From the sound of it, Ann-Marie Slaughter did exactly what she wanted, needed or was driven to do, in her story; "Why Women Still Can't Have It All." We live is a world of customization and have been saying for decades one size doesn't fit all. So why don't we stop the she said, she said rhetoric and carry on in a way that works the best for us as individuals, not "us" as a gender or a movement?

Sheryl Sandberg stated in her interview on this subject, “Women are not making it to the top. A hundred and ninety heads of state; nine are women. Of all the people in parliament in the world, 13 percent are women. In the corporate sector, [the share of] women at the top—C-level jobs, board seats—tops out at 15, 16 percent.” Also, the Committee for Economic Development issued a report this week lamenting the lack of women directors in the U.S. and warning that America’s inability to do something about it could harm the country’s competitiveness. And that’s just the latest in a string of commentaries about this issue.

Here is the question I haven't heard asked of women.. Do you want to be on the board, are you dying for seat at the table? Maybe you're making choices based on our traditional model of working with an understanding that you can do better for yourself . Women have been leaving the traditional, male dominated C-suite for 20 years and creating their own workplace, a place I call the Pink-suite, where memories of this attitude towards women (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BA3uryDJzI0 )only exist on youtube.